“A Winning Mindset” Your Mind is Your Strongest Weapon!
Let me get started into this chapter by asking you a very serious question.
“Do you expect to win or lose?”
Pretty simple question one would think isn’t it?
Stop and think about it for just a second and come up with your answer.
I find that the language many of my students really are speaking suggests that when faced with an opportunity of any description, they don’t expect to win.
Therefore, by default, they are setting themselves up to lose.
Here is an example of what I hear when I start one of my first coaching calls with students that just bought one of my products, or a competitor’s product I may have recommended: “Well, we will see how this product does for me.
The last thing I did didn’t get me any results at all, so I am hoping that I am not getting myself in the same situation.”
Does this sound like someone that really is ready to do whatever it takes to make this new product really work?
Or does it suggest they really do not expect any different result than what they experienced with the last product?
The language you speak is simply a manifestation of the way that your mind thinks and the belief system that it has.
The words coming out have to be thought – either consciously or subconsciously.
What is your language? Is it positive or is it negative?
Does every direction you look seem to point towards failure?
Mirror Test
Let’s do the Mirror test
First I have another question to ask you, “What Do You See in Your Mirror?”
Do you see every imperfection, worry, or failure, or do you truly see the greatness you were created to walk in?
What do you hear yourself say?
Do you berate yourself with comments like “I’m overweight,” and “I’m getting old”? Or do you stand tall and say “I look great!”
I really believe that a mirror reflects much more than what your eyes see at a quick glance.
If you really listen to the thoughts going on inside your mind as you look into that mirror.
I think you will find that a mirror really reflects your inner thoughts and your beliefs. It is a reflection into the soul.
I challenge you to next time you’re in front of a mirror to listen to the voice inside and what it is saying…. I think you may be surprised.
Take a good look at these 3 pictures and come up with answers to these questions.
- What kind of words are they saying about them-selves in their minds?
- What are the thoughts running through their heads right now?
- Are they positive or are they negative?
- Where would these thoughts have originated or be coming from?
- Is it what they really see or is it coming from the influences that surround them in their lives?
When I look at this picture I see someone totally different than I used to see when I looked in the mirror before.
Now I see someone who still struggles from time to time with really realizing and being the total amazing and successful person that I am.
I am working on things but I can tell you I really have come a long way.
Back before I began coaching and mentoring I was not someone I really enjoyed looking at in a mirror.
I was at a point in my life where everything I had worked so hard for was slowly slipping away from my grasp.
I went from a person that gave everything he had to his Job to someone that pretty much felt like he was ripped off and owed.
There had been many promises made in the beginning of my employment through no fault really of my employers that were never fulfilled.
Plans of future that promised growth during my employment and retirement when the time came for it to end.
Not much of that happened because of the economy.
Each day became just another day at what I looked at as my dead end job until finally I gave in and found something else.
I headed into factory work which I had vowed to never do again in my life.
But once again the promise of great benefits and retirement and high wages drew me in and we began my brand new venture.
One year into the job and talk of layoffs were flying around the plant and due to my low seniority I was on my way out.
We were able to work for one more year before the layoff was to take place, but in the meantime hours began to become less and less as the day of the layoff grew closer.
The bills we had, had begun to get farther and farther behind until we were so far behind that my credit was in the dumps and my house was ready for the beginning process of foreclosure.
The phone rang off the hook from creditors wanting money that I wish I had to give them. We just refused to answer the phone after a while, which did nothing to stop it from ringing.
Quite possibly you may understand where I am coming from when I tell you I felt pretty worthless as a father and a husband, especially if you are a husband or father.
I really think if you are a wife you will know as well as my wife could see things better than I seen them myself.
In my eyes I was failing as a provider and I was no longer successful because I was losing my job!
For years I was taught that if you did not have a good job that you could count on to support your family that you were pretty much looked at as being a failure.
If you got behind, you just worked more hours.
As the layoff drew closer my coach asked me what I was going to do now.
My answer was the only thing I knew. “Go look for another job!”
My coach told me to check my email and I would find a plane ticket down to Atlanta Georgia where he lived so that I could begin learning what he did for a living.
Right away I started putting up walls against the idea out of fear.
My coach was telling me I was going to start up my own business and although it was always a dream of mine, it was something I never really seen myself capable of doing.
Right away I started to tell him how much money I did not have to do anything he was asking of me, which he right away said not to be worrying about as he was going to take care of things until I got back on my feet.
At that moment I knew how my parents felt during the times of their struggles while I was growing up.
I remember them asking to borrow money from me to help buy groceries and things when they just didn’t have it.
I never stopped to think how they must have felt. They were now asking the very ones they were supposed to be providing for, for help.
Now my coach was helping me. It was time for a bit of role reversal. I was no longer the mentor. I was the one being mentored.
Needless to say when I looked into the mirror I seen the very person I was told I would be if I found myself in this kind of situation.
A FAILURE!
I really do not know what the situation is that you are finding yourself in as you read this book.
What I do know is that your situation is very close to you and it is probably playing a big part in how you see yourself, and what direction you see clearer for your life right now.
Our current mindset plays a very big role in what direction we see clearer, Success or failure.
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